Venus and Mars
Friday when I arrived home from work my husband was in the kitchen, wiping off the stove. I started talking about my day, but then he halted me, saying, “I can’t believe you didn’t notice that I had cleaned the counters and the stove top. You should have noticed and thanked me!”
At which point I said “Um, have you ever thanked me for cleaning the stove and counters, because, you know, I do them everyday?”
He admitted, well, no, he had never thanked me for those chores, but then said,
“But that’s the difference between me and you; I NEED you to thank me!”
March 10th, 2008 at 9:06 pm
I think your husband has been reading blogs lately…the ones about men doing housework get more sex!
March 10th, 2008 at 9:50 pm
That sounds just like an occasional exchange between my husband and I…
I do appreciate the help, and most of the time notice it, but it’s nice to have my chores acknowledged sometimes, too.
March 10th, 2008 at 10:52 pm
Maybe you could have said “Thank you for cleaning the counters and stove TODAY
March 10th, 2008 at 11:03 pm
Your husband’s answer gave me a tremendous sense of deja vu. I have read something very much like that in Atlas Shrugged. I think it was one of the main characters, James Taggart, who says something similar.
March 10th, 2008 at 11:09 pm
Oh, good one.. a lovely, passive aggressive way to imply that I do them every other day. Of course, he might not pick up on the undertone and just be like, Your welcome!
March 11th, 2008 at 2:24 pm
The few times that women have cleaned my apartment for me, I have been very appreciative and shown it with my words and actions. Of course, it takes all day because my place looks like a tornado full of beer cans and laundry hit it.
March 12th, 2008 at 8:47 pm
MM,
I’m glad you show your appreciation because your apartment cleaning sounds like a lot of work!
Jennifer
March 12th, 2008 at 9:24 pm
Saying it’s a lot of work is like saying the building of Stonehenge took a little bit of heavy lifting.